Abortion, without a doubt, can be one of the most traumatic experiences in a person's life. The loss of pregnancy through abortion may be far in your past, but the memories remain. You, the father, or other family members may feel like emotions are crashing down on you. You may feel as if your head is stuck in the sand. Please know that you are NOT an island, and you are NOT alone! In many cases, the pain of loss may initially be buried, and may surface in relationship difficulties, depression or physical, psychological or spiritual problems.
Healing Grace is here to reach out to men, women, siblings, grandparents or anyone else that might be hurting psychologically, physically or spiritually due to an abortion. We acknowledge that this pain may not be recognized by other family members, friends or by society.
But, we KNOW your emotions exist, and we're here to help.
What is PAS?
PAS-also known as Post Abortion Syndrome is the name given to describe a broad range of adverse emotional reactions which are attributed to abortions. It can surface in one's life as negative emotional reactions, the inability to complete the grieving process, and/or specific self-destructive tendencies. The timing and degree of reaction varies from person to person.
If you are a woman and have experienced abortion, you may encounter the following:
Difficulty bonding with partner or children
Abortion also significantly increases the risk of:
Drug and alcohol abuse
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
Suicidal thoughts and behavior
Men and Abortion
The guilt and burden of men who have fathered aborted children is unbearable at times. For many, blocking the natural process of this trauma blocks their recovery and does not allow them to heal emotionally or spiritually. Even if the abortion was in a previous relationship, the pain and stress of the abortion can be divisive later in marriage and carry lasting effects long into adulthood. Men are hurting and many need help.
Symptoms of stress from abortion include:
Instability in relationships with women
Difficulty bonding with children
Addictive and/or abusive behaviors
Isolation and insensitivity
Lack of confidence and anxiety
Sense of loss, guilt
It is possible for men to get beyond the lingering difficulties from a past abortion and to experience peace and fullness of Christ. By opening their hearts and mind to receiving support, men can begin to rebuild their value structure, ease the pain of anxiety, receive God's forgiveness, and live with confidence and happiness.